Good hair day. #5

Time has not been my friend as of recent.

I write this before I sleep tonight, from the comfort of my bed in hope my thoughts will go out and infest your minds.

I checked into a hotel two nights ago, I drove, I packed my bags for a night out, I ordered roomservice for breakfast. I looked and felt good.
I have no idea if this is just me or a global thought, but I look good - I feel good.

So when I broke it down, I realised that I can say that almost 99% of the time we are trying to look good for other people. That's all we're ever doing.

Whether it comes down to our hairstyle, fashion sense, style of music, which instruments we can play, that you may be a 'reader'. What your profile picture looks like, what your status on facebook is, who you're talking to.
Many of the above labels we can relay down to 'personal preference' but the truth is that all these preferences are aimed towards what we believe to be 'cool', the most 'attractive' in our social spotlight.
Are you the same to a person you just met as you are to people you've known forever?
You're not?
You're trying to look good.

So as a part of my blogging experience I've tried to even out the plain of what is truly me, and how I'm trying to portray myself.

A friend far more intelligent than I once explained a concept to me through the How I met Your Mother characters.
Ted, Marshall, and Barney Stinson.

Barney Stinson is the raw part of our characters, our 'unedited' animal instinct like identity.
"That girl/guy looks hot, I want to have sex with her/him"
is an abrupt example.

Then you have Marshall who is more like the moral and ethical part of our identity. Continuing with the example above
"She / He looks hot and I want to have sex with him/her but morally sex with someone a stranger isn't acceptable and I may look stupid if I approach him/her"

And then you get to Ted Moseby who is the combination of the two, and essentially, the person you want to portray yourself as
"She / He looks hot and I want to have sex with him/her but that's not socially acceptable to approach in that manner so I'll just buy her a drink and we'll chat about the latest book I read and our musical interests because that's the kind of person I want to come off as."

Ted Moseby is essentially who we all become. The combination of our ethics, against what we want and what's socially acceptable.

I can't think of a million example, but I'm sure we can all agree,
We could all think of many little examples in our lives where we do things in attempt to 'look good' towards other people.

I apologize for this poorly written post.
I'll finish with a few thoughts.

- I think that I'm able to do anything or understand any other persons action if I can rationalise it.
I may not agree with it, but If i can see how that person thinks and can rationalise the thought pattern, then it's understandable.

-When you think in your head, you think in english right? So without language, how would you ever think. We're bound by our language and it changes the way we understand everything. My father once told me, "Sometimes by saying things we change the meaning of them. You're true emotion or the way you feel  about something may be one way, but when explaining it to someone it changes the meaning of it by restricting it to the language you know/use. So sometimes it's just best to say nothing at all."

My last blog wasn't written from a coffe shop in the city overlooking the harbour.
I just wanted to look good.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ve0ry7jV5hg